This morning, via, MSN, my friend told me of this story of a girl, someone whom I know during school. She has a rather interesting story. Her bf, loved her so much that he is willing to work more than 1 job to give her a better life. But she didn’t appreciate it and went f*cking around. She even slept with her good friend's hubby, her colleagues, her suppliers, etc. In the end, her bf found out and threw all her belongings out of the house, including her! I guessed at that time, there's nothing she could do or say to get her bf to forgive her for all her wrong doings.
Then I asked my friend, how could she do this, and even if she really couldn't resist all the lust and loneliness, don't go do it in the same small town that everyone knows everyone else. In the first place, if you know what you're doing is wrong, don't make it so obvious la!
My friend said something interesting. She said that her (the Girl) bf has to work more than 1 job, and he couldn't spend much time with her. So maybe she didn't get enough loving and went out looking elsewhere. But what she didn't realize is that she has that love all the time... and she didn't appreciate it. I told my friend that my Hubby is also away from me all the time. But I didn't feel the lack of love from him. And I don't go sleeping around when he's away.
My friend answered: You're different. You're not the bitchy type. She is. She's worst than us.
Worst than us? How can we measure the level of bitchiness? Is it how horny we are? How much we gossip? How much bad stuffs we talk about others?
Well, I personally don't think that she's worst than us. I think we're all equal. We're all horny bitches. Just that we aren't sluts like her. And we definitely won't sleep around with our friend's hubby.
Then I asked my friend, how could she do this, and even if she really couldn't resist all the lust and loneliness, don't go do it in the same small town that everyone knows everyone else. In the first place, if you know what you're doing is wrong, don't make it so obvious la!
My friend said something interesting. She said that her (the Girl) bf has to work more than 1 job, and he couldn't spend much time with her. So maybe she didn't get enough loving and went out looking elsewhere. But what she didn't realize is that she has that love all the time... and she didn't appreciate it. I told my friend that my Hubby is also away from me all the time. But I didn't feel the lack of love from him. And I don't go sleeping around when he's away.
My friend answered: You're different. You're not the bitchy type. She is. She's worst than us.
Worst than us? How can we measure the level of bitchiness? Is it how horny we are? How much we gossip? How much bad stuffs we talk about others?
Well, I personally don't think that she's worst than us. I think we're all equal. We're all horny bitches. Just that we aren't sluts like her. And we definitely won't sleep around with our friend's hubby.
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27 comments:
You are lighting up our lives... It's getting fun reading bitchy stories.
I'm not a girl and couldn't give my comments on the questions of sluts or bitchiness.
But as a man, the bf thinks by earning more money, it would give her a better life. It may not, though money may do a lot of things for our love ones.
Observing your side and hers, I believed the difference is likely the fact that you are a one-woman-man and she is one that needs more than one man. The other aspect may be, the fact that those other man she slept with are far superior in earnings and may have given her those many needs of life of which her hardworking bf is still struggling.
But then, I may likely to be wrong, for what a man see, isn't what a woman is. That's something I lack knowledge and insights.
it's NOT an excuse for a girl to sleep around and cheat just coz the bf/husband isn't around to be with her
from a different perspective... perhaps not yet? hahahaha....
this is another typical example where guys should not treat a girl so nice till she owns your whole world cos when that happen, the guy fails to be a man and when that happen... girls will go out looking for man. as crude as it may sound.
Everyone has their own choices.
The guy earns money for her, but who knows what they're going through in their relationship? They might not be having a good relationship, and maybe all he can give her is money and not love.
I think she's not a slut, maybe she just needs to have more love and attention from guys.
Maverick: Getting fun eh. I have one more scenario. Coming soon.
I feel that it is not a one-woman-man thing. To me, my Hubby is always away and if I wanted the chance to fish out there... I could, easily. But I will not do it. Cause I know the reason my Hubby is working so hard is for our future. I will not betray him by hurting him this way.
Nicole: 100% agree with you. I guess we both know how lonesome our lives could be without our hubby around us. But we also know our principles. Right?
Zewt: We have principles. Just like what you have answered in my previous post. The temptation is there... but your principles stays. Do you agree?
Lovie: Sleeping around like that still not a slut? Then when is??
why her good friend's hubby can sleep with her??? I can understand her supplier wants to sleep with her (why not.. FOC wor), colleagues (why not again...), but why good friend's hubby so weak and can get seduced so easily???
Is she pretty?? and with hot hot body??
no lar..i think she just wants TLC..tender loving care..and prob itchy dwn there as well lar..
Hah....There is always this kind of peoples in the world. They r just too horny...
Slut ler.......hm....
I think we all have the potential to be like that. Just that we might have better control ability...human...she is more towards animal's reaction.
my answer? still the same...she's someone who lacks love. she is constantly looking for love. she does not know what love is...
even when she's found it, she would lose it easily for she does not recognise love and so, does not appreciate it :-)
Also, i think she does not know how to love herself.
if she thinks that she's lacking of love, she'd find a guy who can fulfill her needs emotionally.. not physically! er.. right?
guys can sleep with a girl coz of lust and without any feelings.. not that they love her
purple~mushroom: yea we can cheat.. definitely.. even our husbands can cheat BUT it's really up to that someone's principles
mayb she has her own reasons? or she just wanted the guy/bf to notice her? the guy might think by giving her presents can make her happie while she just wanted more time and attention from him~
anyway.. yea.. if i were to be her.. i will sure argue with my bf and warn him abt everything.. If he don't get it.. well.. see ya guy! But definately.. i would never do things like her.. simply sleeping with people will just make things worst~ LOL~
cheers ya~
zewt's right..the guy shouldn't treat the girl SOOOOo nice till he spoils her
and dey..it's definitely not an excuse for that girl to go sleep around! cheap slut!!!!
Well done. You had let me know clearly the difference between bitch and slut. I would like my future wife to be bitchy with me rather than slutty with every men around.
If the guy had never neglected his gf they wouldn't be in a situation like this. A relationship is not based on money & comfortable life it is the matter of the heart with lots of hard work together. How is that considered love, working two jobs and buying her gifts with the excuse of providing her with a comfortable life for a better future. How is money and material a substance for a better and happy future. Why is ones success rated based on his or her earnings and affordability. I don't think the bf knows what a relationship is. I am not saying they should see each other everyday but he should show/express his love and affection and not expect her to love him just because he can provide her with things. Also thinking sacrificing is love that pure rubbish.
I do not want a man who thinks he can buy me love and who thinks he can put the relationship on hold so that he can earn enough money for a better tomorow for the both of us.
Calling her a slut or a bitch or whatever you would like to label her is not in anyone's place to comment. Everyone man and woman have the desire for S** and everyone have different needs to be fulfilled. Some need it more than others and that doesn't make them any less human. It is okay to want it 3 times a day, everyday besides women can go on for a long time compared to their male counterparts.
My two cents worth - this couple lacked communication hence both of them were clueless what their partner's priorities, wants and needs are.
IF she really thinks that she's lacking of love, then she might as well find a guy who can provide her with LOVE.. yea, everyone has the urge or need for sex BUT that doesn't mean she has to sleep with DIFFERENT guys, right? she can just find a guy who can fulfilled her sexually but no, she slept with different guys.. some more she has to sleep with her good friend's husband.. there's so many guys out there.. but why her own good friend's husband?
if this girl's bf doesn't work now while he's young, how is he supposed to have a family when he gets older? be a good provider for his wife and kids.. everything now needs money.. car, house, food n etc..
i mean, i'm not being materialistic BUT i'm just being REALISTIC.. of course money isn't everything BUT with no money, am sure it'd be a problem in a r'ship.. no one wants a guy who can just only provide love and not security and future to a girl.. a guy has to be ambitious and willing to work for a better future..
am i right, girls?
my hubby leaves me for work as long as 6 weeks.. he gives me everything that i want.. but do i feel he loves me less? will that be a reason for me to go and cheat? that i've lack of love AND sex? is my hubby doing wrong in trying to work hard so he can be a good provider for me and our future kids?
from what i see, his willingness to work and earn money for us to have a better future IS 1 of the ways he show me that he loves me and care about me.. that he loves me so much that he's trying to give me the BEST in everything.. i mean if he doesn't love me or love me less, why the hell he wants to work so hard for?
EK5:
I sooo NOT agree with you. You think her bf, if given a choice, a job with plenty of money, you think he will neglect his gf? It is because he has no choice and he wants to give her a better life thats why he works hard for her. That does not give her a reason, being he is away and to sleep around with so many guys and even her friend's hubby. Cheap slut!
Nicole:
You are sooo right! Again... agreed with you completely!
Well husbands going out making all the money for their family's future is good. The key to this is or maybe the difference is that a good partner does express his love and eventhough he is not there physically with his loved one he still makes his presence felt - well that's how LDR survive anyway. Some jobs requires lots of travelling abroad and extended stay away from family and friends. I am very convinced that even the "most-noble-ones" have cheated on their partners - be it wife or girlfriend. Ask your partner this today and see what his/her answer is. I have seen enough to dare make this statement! Has your partner cheated on you before?
In my opinion, the woman perhaps slept around with many guys because all those men meant nothing to her, merely using them for her sexual fulfilment. So its like whoever that is willing she just takes the opportunity, mind you it might not be important if it was a pleasurable experience or not. She is not looking for love because she loves her bf but she wants the attention, sex and the ocassional flirting. Wanting sex is not a bad thing - its natural not a taboo. Well her good friend's husband must have wanted it so its mutual consent and I doubt she did it to get back at her friend. Her friend should have kept her men happy so he wouldn't stray. I am sure you'd agree to this because people look for what is lacking they dont go looking for what is already of abundance to them.
Well, Mrs. Nicole I have to agree and disagree with you on certain views of yours. I too like you look for security in my partner no way I am going to be with someone who is not stable financially, emotionally, etc. So whatever your husband is doing is good. Like I mentioned before its about communication and understanding priorities and also making the effort for the relationship and distance is no excuse. Based on the post I doubt the bf did that and based on your comment seems like your husband is not like the bf. Money is never enough its such a relative term and everyone have different views on how much is enough. Sadly, the world we live in requires money for lots of things but looking at the bigger picture the smaller things in life are in fact what everyone needs. To me achieving the smaller more meaningful essence in life is more important so striking a balance is crucial. How much is enough? Working hard when you are young and hoping to retire early and thinking the big fat bank balance and all the investments is enough is a risk because there are so many other factors to be considered like inflations and misfortunes, etc. One can't accomodate for all scenarios. Besides money can be earned anytime even when you are old and frail not only when one is young and able.
People by default are nice we were all once that innocent babies born to this world. No one is born a bitch or a slut - they chose a different way of life than the norm due to various reasons and the society labels them! Who are they to judge, who are we to judge, who am I to judge. Just because I wouldnt do it and just because the society does not except it doesn't make her actions wrong. She is no bitch or a slut she is just living her life the way she wants it.
mmphh...very interesting
anyway your story is just a side of a picture. And moreover is tru another party so believe the story might be less than the truth or overkill...
Believe all of us did played a game of passing the message and usually if not all the time the sentences is distorted...so my question is do we have the right to call others a "Bitch"?
Anyway, only the 2 of them will know the real situation, and as a "friend" to either party, we can only support without getting into the picture.
Just imagine if you are the 1 in it, & people making slender comments about you...mmpphh wouldn't be nice rite even if we don't give a crab bout it?
The best way to support is to just listen...& believe by doing so it is more than anything else. Many times, those in dilemma just wana get things out from their heart...(just something I believe in)
i think my bb is right.. we just can't judge based on 1 side of the story.. it really has nothing to do with us.. it's their prob :P
hi EK5..i don't agree with u leh..if i have a bf who is willing to work 2 jobs for me, i'll be kissing his toes and appreciating him more than ever. and if i really have a great desire for S**...i'll be using the vib*** instead of sleeping around..sleeping around is not clean, she might contract disease and pass it on to her bf leh..and sleeping around is really bad for the soul...
anyway, so u've cheated on ur partner before is it? hehehehe...just curious lah...since in ur comment u're sure that everyone cheats..
their problem, yes, not ours..it's her choice of life and she's to take all the consequences...but calling her a slut is just a description of what she is..she knows what a slut means and if she wants to go out and be slutty, then she has to be prepared to be called a SLUT....
No..her actions are not srong for she chooses her life, but the description "slut" is for her..
we're being judgemental, maybe...but who isn't? and no one(guy or girl) likes to be cheated on..this could happen to anyone of us..u, me, purple mushroom, just about anyone...and in life, there's no safety net..if it happens to us, we'll just have to deal with it..if it happens to us, we might be calling our the person who cheats on us sluts, too...
well name calling is so yesterday, so childish! best is to handle it like adults and respect ones decisions. Well i dare u gurls to ask your partner if he has ever cheated on you or their previous partners before! if he says yes than you know you are with an honest men. I am so certain of this because I have seen way too much and its nothing personal.
COMMUNICATION! and CONSIDERATION!
That is the root of the this problem: Lonely wife & worn-out husband..
Husband does not express himself enough. Wife does not occassionally express her feelings. So? Silence means consent? NOT.
because of this ..
Husband does not know wife is "lonely" therefore comes home tired.. Wife does not know how much husband has worked hard...
In the end.. wife "all psyched up".. but husband is all worn out..
also, its the opposite once wife have kids ;)
EK5...it's nothing personal huh??
Well, then i hope u don't get personal with my below comments...
Why do u bother with our name calling for our friends??
To u, yes, maybe we are childish, but hey, didn't u just named us "childish"?? isn't that name calling as well?? ...And being childish is our choice of life..nothing wrong with that, right??
Why are u judging us? If u are judging us, then aren't u being judgemental too??
So, what difference are u from us, anyway? ;-)
It's usually normal in life that people see the fault in others, but they failed to see the fault in themselves.
But again, who are we to judge. We just have our own opinions and I believe there's nothing wrong to that.
Just remember that for everything, there's at least 2 school of thoughts.
everyone claims that they've seen ALOT but how much is alot? u've seen the negatives BUT have u seen the positives? OR vice versa..
everyone one of us see things differently.. they ARE some good n bad guys around.. NOT ALL guys cheat..
i used to think that ONLY guys cheat (coz my ex cheated on me, guy friends cheating on their gf) UNTIL my hubby told me some stories about his colleagues where the wives/gfs would sell of the guys properties and run away with another guy just coz their bfs/husbands are away working..
there's always a balance in life
you girls are such horrible friends!!!
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