You broke off with your ex-bf long time ago and both of you remained good friends. You know he still has got the hots for you and both of you were like good ole dating couples when you meet up. Obviously, you were more than friends.
Soon, he got hooked up with another gal pal of yours. She is a close friend and your relationship with him was never much revealed. Meaning, she knows the history between you both but does not know that both of you are still so close.
One single month, your gal pal went overseas for business trip. You and few other friends, including your ex, met up and had a few drinks at the pub. All of you got high and he insisted on sending you home. Since it’s late, all the other friends asked you to follow his car for safety sake. While in the car, he held your hands and told you that he still misses you. Of course, you are happy that someone still cares for you but that is already history. He is with someone else right now and she is your gal pal and you are actually happy for them. Then he tried to kiss you and you pushed him away, telling him to f*ck off! Nothing happened then. He sent you home.
The following night, he text you, asking you your plans for the weekend. He asked if you wanna spend the weekend with him at his house. You think he must have gone crazy this time! Now that’s too much. WTF!!?? Of course, you said no.
Few weeks later, your gal pal returned from her business trip. You went out yam-char with her and another friend. While 3 of you gals were having your girls’ talk, your gal pal told you that she and your ex is planning to get married. The other friend burst out happily and said that she is soooo happy for both of them.
Soon, he got hooked up with another gal pal of yours. She is a close friend and your relationship with him was never much revealed. Meaning, she knows the history between you both but does not know that both of you are still so close.
One single month, your gal pal went overseas for business trip. You and few other friends, including your ex, met up and had a few drinks at the pub. All of you got high and he insisted on sending you home. Since it’s late, all the other friends asked you to follow his car for safety sake. While in the car, he held your hands and told you that he still misses you. Of course, you are happy that someone still cares for you but that is already history. He is with someone else right now and she is your gal pal and you are actually happy for them. Then he tried to kiss you and you pushed him away, telling him to f*ck off! Nothing happened then. He sent you home.
The following night, he text you, asking you your plans for the weekend. He asked if you wanna spend the weekend with him at his house. You think he must have gone crazy this time! Now that’s too much. WTF!!?? Of course, you said no.
Few weeks later, your gal pal returned from her business trip. You went out yam-char with her and another friend. While 3 of you gals were having your girls’ talk, your gal pal told you that she and your ex is planning to get married. The other friend burst out happily and said that she is soooo happy for both of them.
Inside your heart, you felt a sudden gush of anger… that the f*cker has the guts to ask you to spend the weekend with him prior to that. How can he treat her this way???
At this point, what will you do?
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I think I'll my friend, at least she can reconsider marrying him.
it'll be hard, but i would tell her. i guess she might be in denial and insist that i still like him..but it's for her own good!!
HI there :)
I had gone thru the exact situation o_O and trust me it was really hard, especially if the gal is one of your bffs, it torn me apart from inside. Cos sometimes BFF would think that your jealous of her...
I cud not fight my own conscience, and chose to tell my gal pal the truth. She tot i lied, and later on she tot I love her BF!
My bff chose to be with him in the end, but after about 3 months, he didnt carry out any marriage planning as promised earlier, and she found out that he is seeing another gal. Bff confronted him and he dumped her on the spot with a very very lame excuse.
I'm glad that she finally sees his true colour :) But very sad to say, she is still not talking to me rite now, about one and a half year after the incident.
She still thinks tat I was trying to take her bf away from her. Thus...we are now no more BFFs, not even frens.
How to tell ah this kind a thing.. tell already sure ruin their relationship. If does not get managed properly, your gf might also not believe you and think you trying to gao-si-gurn and totally cut you off from her circle in the future.
Don't tell is better.
I will keep quite, and bless them. All the best! I don't think it's a good move to tell her about the truth that happened to you. Definitely, she might think you want to spoil their relationship.
Reveal everything to your girl pal!
It's a tough decision, may be i will still tell in the end. Of course, risk of loosing her friendship. At least, i told, you believe or not believe, listen or not listen, I have done my part. Next time, should your marriage did not turn out well, I would feel at least I have done what I think I should have done.
dun tell her...but if she's really ur good-friend, then be there for her when she needs it in future :-)
I would have to be that man, so I don't know what to do.
If the story line is real, I don't think the man love the girl he wants to marry. His heart is still with his ex. The marriage would be more of a gap-fill-up.
I should think the couple should take a little more time to understand each other better, and whether they are ready for marriage, that is, two will become one.
As for the ex-gf, she should step out of the way if she wants out absolutely. It is hard for breakup pair to remain intimate friends; friendship can remain but being intimate friends would eventually lead to another journey of emotional turmoil.
If I'm the ex-gf, I would not pour "hot-water" on a possible marriage. The gal could be extremely excited for the great occasion and at this juncture, any negative or insidious advice could backfire and breakup the friendship between the two girls. Remember, love is blind.
For me, I won't keep in touch with all my EXes just to avoid this kind of embarrasing situations.
As if its really happened... i gonna keep my mouth zipped all time.We can only listen by not giving any comments.You have to know love is blind, outsider would not know what is actually happened in between them.
i would. coz she's my best friend. but i wont discourage her from marrying him.
I'd not tell my fren at the first place, but, I am the kind of person that will definitely go to my ex first, see what is in his mind. If he just wanted to show off or hurt me. will ask him to jimat sedikit. whatever he did, I'll no go back to him, or will not get hurt for whatever he did. am only worrying for my fren's future.
Who knows, if he just can't let go the past, will suggest him to reconsider about marrying my fren, just give himself and my fren more time to think about it.
will only tell if my ex didn't change. don't want her to take such a risk. if she's a real close fren, she'll understand me. Even if she didn't, I had done my part, and , that is, their future for them to face. will be a completely outsider by then.
it's my fault for all the deleted comment, sorry..
damn computer
wahlau eh, got dis kind of situation 1 ar?..if i was the girl, i would have f*ck the guy, record it on tape, show my friend so his life would be in ruins, let him come begging..wahahah i am feeling so evil dis morning..
Me and my ex are still very close~ indeed till ppl tot we are together still~
if such things happened.. well.. i'll definately discuss it with both of them..
first.. i find the guy and ask abt it.. (there are guys out there who will purposely make out such situation to make u feel guilty on the decision tat u made when u deny/reject them~) I'll see how the guy replies~
then.. I'll find the gurl and see how the situation is.. if the gurl is in such a state that she's so in love with him.. I'll just make things in coversation "IF" state, e.g "If he's seeing another gurl.. wat will u do?" and see her reaction.. if she's so blind with him.. then i'll just wish her good luck.. ^^ when gurls are in love.. even ur BFF.. there's no way u can bad-mouth the guy she loves.. she'll think tat you are sick!
Guys.. dun hurt the person who care abt u~
The true deal is that, no one can stay monogamous. But the girl did the right thing, not to let him in or go out with him during the weekends. But pitty the woman he's marrying.. she's marrying a polygamous and she doesn't even know it!
is this real or another hypothetical question?
i think should not tell... unless he does it again.
This is true life encounter. After reading all the comments, my friend has decided NOT to tell her gal pal. I agree with her. Telling will only ruin the relationship of everyone.
So, she will keep quiet about it. But she did contacted her ex and told him off. She scolded him for being a jerk and told him to treat the gal better if he really wants to spend the rest of his life with her.
And you know what is the reaction of the ex? He got angry!
hey unless we are "psychic", we will only know what's in a mind of each individual...
believe she did the right thing in confronting the ex...and the reaction of the ex by getting angry might be normal. He might mis-read your friend's signal.
So communication is very important in our lifes... to avoid being mis-interpret & vice-versa.
In the future if things doesnt turn out right between the 2 of them, your friend might be in the picture again...think about it if the gal found out that u knew things beforehand? mmmppphhh, would the friendship be shaken then???
Would you blame your friend for keeping such information???
Yes...some may say that they would keep it as a secret away from your friend... but would the guilt eat us up???
Mmmmpphhhh.......man...hey can't you post something without cracking up my mind & soul ah....haha.
tis situation is hard 2 express..
diffferent mind different opinion..
say aso died,keep quiet aso died...
actually tis kind of guy should kick him far far away...
Once he do tat 2 his gf,im sure later marry the same nightmare will repeat...
BUT if tat guy is really love tis gal,there might a chance tat tis guy will change 4 her...but guy is HARD 2 TRUST...
erm..depends la...if tell,it might help her 2 avoid the nightmare,she might hurt but no pain no gain friend....
if keep quiet then may God bless them tilll forever n happy ever after but would the nightmare happen is stiill in question mark...
We won't know how far the guy will go while saying spend the weekend with him, i mean it doesn't mean anything mah...maybe they are both ex- before so the guy just want to have last gathering with the ex- before he getting married. Unless we accept the invitation and the guy do something crazy then i will tell the truth...
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